Different ways that strangers treat me
When I drive home on a normal day, people don’t notice me much. Everybody is reasonably respectful. But when I put my sunglasses on and hide my eyes, people get a lot more impatient with me. They pass me quickly, try to zoom ahead of me at stop signs, etc. I’m sure this has everything to do with the glasses and is in no way a reflection of my driving skills…
In the winter, if I wear my crocheted white owl hat with the cute tufted ears on top, people are really nice to me. They bag my groceries with extra care, talk to me like a friend, and look at me fondly. My adorable owl hat makes me an adorable owl hat person. I have learned that adorable owl hat people are very approachable and are already friends with everyone.
If I feel tired and weak, people look more nervous and keep more distance. I’m pale and get really dark lines under my eyes when I feel tired, so I think I can look pretty bad. Some people give me space, some people have a more supportive and protective air and try to cheer me up with careful, gentle jokes.
When I feel really sick and grouchy and have to go out and pump gas in my swishy pants, when all I want to do is crawl under a rock and die and I hate everyone, this is when guys seem most attracted to me. This has led me to the conclusion that there are lots of men out there who want a woman who will kick their ass.
These are huge differences in treatment, based on very small changes such as my mood or a single article of clothing. If you’re walking down the street, how differently do you treat each person who passes? Do you smile at one and not the other, mutter excuse me to one and avoid eye contact with the other? Why?
Once I read an essay or something (I’m sorry to have forgotten the details) by an African-American man. He noticed people getting tense if he walked down a lonely street near them. His solution to this was to start whistling Vivaldi. He said he could see their backs immediately loosen up. Hardened criminals don’t give their position away by whistling cheerful, cultured tunes!
I wonder how much of our personalities, clothing choices, etc are made to get other people to look at you the right way.
I wonder what we would each be if there was no peer pressure. I tell you what, I probably wouldn’t shower.
…who am I kidding. This drawing is my reality.
“I’m gonna eat that hairy leg”
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LOL! Yaaaas. Bite my toenails short for me while yer at it
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Sure!! but it’ll cost extra!
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Wait… the dynamics just changed! Heyyyy! I ain’t paying for that, I’ll bite my own toenails.
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Well…I should’ve been more up front. So it’ll be for free!!! hahaha
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Can we somehow angle this so that I end up giving $5 to someone I don’t like for no services rendered?
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That picture captures a perfect Monday for me
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haha, it is a good day for us, but probably not for our coworkers. Maybe this is why everyone but me hates Mondays…?
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Do you remember John T. Molloy? In the 70s, Molloy was a school teacher who conducted a study of how student’s dress influenced their teacher’s opinions of them. He found what he didn’t expect. That dress mattered.
That inspired him to quit teaching and make a career out of consulting with corporations to dress their employees “for success”. He also published a few books, including “Dress for Success”.
Molloy’s conclusions were all reached by means of rigorous scientific studies. One of his conclusions, I recall, was that how salespeople dressed accounted for about an 8% difference in their selling.
A couple other things I recall were his discovery that there are regional variations in what clothing worked or didn’t work for success. For instance, in the Midwest and Pacific Northwest, people wanted their salespeople to flash expensive jewelry or watches. But nearly everywhere, bank employees who wore green suits were thought to be crooks.
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It cracks me up that green suits are a reason to mistrust someone.
I wonder how the standards for respectable clothes choices have evolved with the changing fashions.
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I’d wear overalls everyday! People are usually standoffish with me. Apparently I may seem imposing and intense. I tell people all the time, this is my face, I can’t do anything about it.
I particularly don’t care for people anyway, so the more that avoid me, the better I feel. It seems so much more efficient that way, no small talk or the obligatory “good morning”.
I just want to go on about my business.
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So, you’re blaming your face, but it sounds like your attitude might be part of it too… 😉
It’s interesting how we kind of build the world we want. You don’t want people around, they can sense that, they don’t approach. I love people, and people always seem remarkably kind back to me. People who believe in ghosts see them all the time. etc…
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I’m convinced I’d be the perfect inmate in solitary confinement!
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LOL, I know who I’m picking as my solitary confinement partner!
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I hope you know Morse code
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I’ll make friends with the people in cells around me via Morse, and I’ll be tappa-tappa-tapping all day, and there you’ll be in the corner, tense and bristling like an angry cat
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Tense, me? I’ll be sprawled out, enjoying my quiet time, reading perhaps.
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Actually that sounds like a perfect roommate to me
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I aim to please!!!
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That picture! Yeah, I can relate. Seriously…
Great post! 🤣
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Haha, thank you! It’s nice to know others are as disgusting at heart as I am.
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interesting read indeed n loving the pic 🙂
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Thanks, Michael! It’s fun to draw isn’t it. I like your monsters too
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When I was young – er, and spent endless hours in the shopping malls, I would often sit a while and look at peoples’ feet. Yep. More specifically, their footwear. You would be surprised at the enormous variety of footwear out there. Fascinating. Don’t quite know what amazing insights are in that but there must be a doctorate lurking somewhere 🙂 That was a bit of random nonsense inspired by your post …
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I never was big on noticing clothes or shoes, but people are so cute walking around on their feet! I like the way they point their feet where they want to go.
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Lol!
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I always look at people’s feet too! 😀
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I think I just like feet.
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Feet are cute! People are so hard on feet, but I like mine. When you walk around barefoot a lot you really start to appreciate all the minor muscle movements it takes to keep you balanced. Also, toes are funny.
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If you go naked, you’ll never be judged for your clothing again.
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Oh, you’re right! Then I’d be judged for my actual physical flaws, instead of being judged for the ineffective ways I use clothing to try to mask my physical flaws!
What a great idea for a social experiment: flagrant nudism. LOL
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lol… people can be so judgy, can’t they?
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